Don’t Be Afraid to Go By Yourself, But Always Do it With God.

Well, the first blog post I planned on posting was a lot more intense. I decided to cool it down a bit, so here it goes. 

If you know me, you know that I am very reserved. If I have never met you, I probably will not be the one to initiate the conversation. However, every personality test I’ve ever taken has said that I am, in fact an extrovert. After much reflection in my life, I like to call myself a shy extrovert. How is this possible you ask? well let’s just say I have trust issues. If I trust you with information, I will in fact “talk your head off”. But I am always afraid that I will share information with people who will ether misinterpret it or spread it around. 

            Trust issues, huh? How can you be a Christian and have trust issues? God placed these people in your life so that you can talk to them about whatever, whenever. Well I’ve got news for you, even those Christians at your church, aren’t perfect. Going through life I have told things to people they weren’t ready to hear. Not everyone knows how to listen with understanding. However, everyone thinks they know how to “talk it out”, but people fail to realize how powerful the tongue actually is.  Your words could literally lead someone to the light of God or to the pits of hell. One example of this, is when I share my issues and the other person’s response is “I’m sorry to hear that but I *fill in the blank*”. As if my issue is not relevant, as if it didn’t take everything in me to share this, as if this “thing” isn’t altering my life.

  • “Most people do not listen with the intent to understand; they listen with the intent to reply”- Covey

I challenge you find the people the people in your life that will always listen to understand. Although, I do have some bad news, you will soon find that those people you thought would understand, won’t. They won’t understand your pain, they won’t understand your struggle, but guess what? That’s OK. We all have different stories; we all have different battles. Some people will never face the struggles that you have faced, and some people will never fight the battles you have fought. But don’t think that just because they don’t understand your struggle, your struggle is any less important. You are worth it all, Jesus thought so, so why wouldn’t you? 

So your probably asking yourself, what do I do now? I can trust anyone, no one understands, and I’m hurting. Well I’m going to say this, but take it with a grain of salt. 

Don’t be afraid to walk alone with God

Oh no, I just went against one of my churches mission statements, whatever shall we do. But honestly, if you feel as though you can’t trust anyone and you have no one to talk to, turn to God. You will learn a lot in this time. But Allie, what do I do if God is quiet? Pray. Pray until you hear him and read your bible until you find yourself nose deep into the word.  Things in your life won’t always make since, but God’s word always will. 

One thing I think people fail to realize is that Jesus was once alone, in fact Jesus was once alone in his beliefs. Could you imagine living a sinless life around people who were always sinful. But, as humans we will always be around the sinful nature of humanity. Sometimes we just need to isolate ourselves, because we need to find ourselves through Christ before we find ourselves in someone else. 

If the people who aren’t taking the time to listen to you, do you think they truly taking the time to listen to understand Christ?

It’s ok, to be by yourself. It’s ok, If you feel you need time away from the people you once thought were your best friends. It’s ok if you miss that church hangout that you feel isn’t right for you.

I leave you with this,

We are all broken in some way, and we can choose to ether contribute to problem or be a part of the solution.  So be sure your friends are always making you better. Make sure that when you leave that conversation, you feel good about yourself.

The people you hang around can make or break you, and It’s ok to take a step back before they break you.  

Proverbs 13:20 (BBE) Go with wise men and be wise: but he who keeps company with the foolish will be broken.